What we intend, what we say and how we listen - has a profound impact on our relationships and outcomes.

Click on the true or false button as it applies to you.

true false	I feel good about my communication exchanges with my friends and family
true false	I feel good about my communication exchanges with my co-workers and clients
true false	I am clear about what I want back from others when I speak
true false	I am willing to reveal my vulnerability and don't see vulnerability as weakness
true false	Others are willing to reveal their vulnerability in my presence
true false	People tell me that they enjoy how I listen to them
true false	I am as interested in meeting the needs of others as I am in meeting my own needs
true false	When I ask people to do things for me, I am open to hearing "no" from them
true false	I don't interpret a "no" from others as a rejection
true false	I never try to make others feel guilty if they don't do as I like
true false	I am able to transform my anger into a positive force that will meet my needs without it being at the expense of anyone else's needs
true false	I view conflict as an opportunity to better understand myself and others as well as an opportunity to explore meeting everyone's needs
true false	I am skilled at expressing myself honestly and authentically without alienating others
true false	I don't take what others say about me personally
true false	When someone does something I don't like, I let them know without using words that imply wrongness
true false	I do things for others to meet my need to give and I do so without strings attached
true false	I never do things for others motivated out of fear or guilt
true false	When others are speaking, I focus solely on what they're saying and resist thinking instead of what I will say next
true false	When others are in distress, I really listen to them without rushing in to fix the problem
true false	I don't need approval from others in order to feel good about myself
true false	When speaking with others about things that matter to me, I make clear reference to my needs and values
true false	I take responsibility for my feelings and don't ever imply that others are the cause of my feelings (eg: You make me so mad)
true false	When I make mistakes, I don't berate myself - instead I learn from my "mis-takes" and explore how I might act differently in the future
true false	When others do things I like, I never offer praise - instead I express my gratitude by letting them know how their actions have contributed to my life
true false	When I communicate with others, I am consciously aware of my intention and choice of words and how these will affect the quality of connection I have with others

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