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Speak To Me Like You Love Me

  • Salt Spring Island, Golden Tree Farm 150 Suffolk Road Salt Spring Island BC V8K 1L8 (map)


Registration & payment (gst calculated at checkout)

Tuition: $280 (GST added at checkout) 
Couples rate: $500 (GST added at checkout) 
Seats are non-refundable but transferable to another person
Workshop Times: Saturday 10am-4pm & Sunday 10am-3pm
Venue: Golden Tree Farm, 150 Suffolk Road Salt Spring Island
Local contact: Natasha Kong 250-537-7253

Explore a revolutionary approach to speaking up, establishing rapport and resolving differences. Radically shift your experience of communication with this liberating, transformational and dynamic practice rooted in spiritual and emotional intelligence. Break through limiting thought and speech patterns established through social conditioning, and replace them with a powerful way of communicating that is deeply satisfying, life honouring and creatively liberating. Come with an open mind so you can experience the power of vibrant, authentic connection with those you love, those you don't love, and the living world that sustains you.


  • be able to approach conflict and important conversations in a more open, grounded and confident manner?
  • develop a deeper understanding of interpersonal dynamics and what to track in your conversations?
  • increase your objectivity, sensitivity, authenticity, awareness and resourcefulness?


  • You feel stuck in your life
  • You feel stuck in your primary relationship
  • Your kids won't listen to you
  • Your partner won't listen to you
  • You don't have the guts to speak up
  • You say things you regret
  • You feel resentful
  • You handle conflict poorly (freeze/fight/flight)
  • You feel anger/despair about the world
  • You're convinced something's missing but you're not sure what
  • You're disillusioned with life and/or relationships
  • You're disillusioned with healing, personal growth and self-help
  • You feel disempowered in your relationships or within the "system"
  • You're ready to develop mastery in your communication
  • You want to become a more effective leader
  • You want to change the world (yep, still a noble pursuit)


  • You're not open to deeply examining how you communicate
  • You're not willing to stretch your perspective and consider different ways of seeing
  • You're not willing to feel some discomfort as you replace old habits with new skills


• Alienating thinking and language (our cultural inheritance)
• You don't need to be "healed" .. identifying the "trauma" of our times
• Speaking with compelling honesty and moxy
• Understanding the mechanics of defensiveness
• When "safety" and "non-judgement" become a trap and a rap
• Addressing interpersonal tension skillfully and constructively
• Balancing clear intention/direction with openness and flexibility
• Empathy that liberates versus empathy that stifles
• Mourning and Gratitude as essential anchors


This workshop is for all who speak. It is intended for anyone willing to do the work to significantly enhance and transform personal and professional relationships. It is intended for all possessed by a longing to learn how to speak their way towards a better day. It is for artists, dreamers, lovers, couples, creatives, educators, counsellors, leaders, managers, parents, mediators and those committed to personal and social change.

'Speak to me like you love me' is a workshop title that acknowledges the need we have as human beings to know that we matter to others, not in the romantic or intimate sense even though that can be lovely, but rather in the sense that because dominant culture teaches people to see life primarily in terms of "resources", it takes disciplined "unlearning" and retraining, especially where language is concerned, to overcome well-practiced enculturation habits that tragically normalize alienating and "power over" ways of relating with each other. 


  • I will shake up your existing paradigm around communication (a good thing because the dominant paradigm generates problems for us)
  • I will challenge you to think waaaaaaay outside the box (key to making breakthroughs)
  • You will develop skills that you can implement straight away with immediate results
  • You will acquire a more trustworthy way of seeing yourself, your relationships and the world than through the cultural lens that has informed you for most of your life 
  • Your ability to think critically will be strengthened as will your capacity to respond compassionately
  • You'll have a much clearer understanding of the mechanics of conflict and learn to lean into it with sensitivity, ingenuity and creativity
  • You'll be moved to tears (in a good way)
  • You'll laugh (levity is good medicine)


Rachelle Lamb has worked in the field of interpersonal relating and conflict resolution for over two decades. She brings an earthy, practical yet innovative wisdom earned over decades of study and practice concentrated on Language, Relationships and Conflict through several diverse lenses: Cultural Anthropology, Spirituality, Nonviolent Communication℠, Mythology, Poetry, Storytelling, Deep Ecology and Social Activism. She is a speaker, writer, spiritual activist, certified NVC Trainer and ‘relationship whisperer’ and has shown thousands how to courageously and skillfully navigate interpersonal conflict and challenges, leading to profound breakthroughs.

"Engaging, dynamic, transformational, liberating … a must attend!"

"A workshop that truly speaks to the heart!! A wonderful opportunity for anyone who wants to explore an alternate way of being! An opportunity that speaks to our essence."

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Seating is limited for this venue. Early sign-up recommended.

To speak eloquently, directly and courageously when the stakes are high does not come naturally. It is a learned skill. And if you haven't learned it, which is close to guaranteed in a culture that doesn't teach it, you probably already know that when you need it most is precisely when it becomes painfully clear just how impoverished our culture is in this regard and that you have inherited this same poverty. And in a culture that prides itself on "progress" and "individualism", you can be sure that the stakes will be even higher when it comes to your relationships. The cost of alienation will likely be far greater than what your heart can bear.

Article printed in DRIFTWOOD paper Jan 31

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Earlier Event: January 6
Speak To Me Like You Love Me
Later Event: March 3
Speak To Me Like You Love Me