Grief and the Soulful Life
Feb
20
10:00am10:00am

Grief and the Soulful Life

  • Victoria BC, Royal Roads University (map)
  • Google Calendar ICS

A person's ability to navigate the terrain of grief is exactly that .. an "ability" .. something that must be learned throughout one's life. This day is for those who have felt the tug to venture into the rich terrain of grief and broken-heartedness.

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The Empathic Leader: Leading From The Inside Out
Dec
3
9:00am 9:00am

The Empathic Leader: Leading From The Inside Out

  • Victoria BC, Royal Roads University (map)
  • Google Calendar ICS

Today, more than ever, emerging leaders need the skills to communicate effectively in order to unleash the highest potential in themselves and others. Learn to support clear and productive communication between co-workers, employees and clients and create mutually satisfying solutions maintaining the trust and collegial respect of all concerned.

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Communication Breakthrough
Oct
24
to Oct 25

Communication Breakthrough

Explore a revolutionary approach to speaking up, establishing rapport, and addressing conflict effectively. Radically shift your experience of communication with this liberating, transformational & dynamic practice rooted in emotional intelligence.

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Oct
3
to Oct 4

Befriending Conflict

  • Vancouver BC, The Hollyhock Room (map)
  • Google Calendar ICS

How is it that communication exchanges between well intentioned people become so habitually problematic? How do we make sense of so much negativity and hostility arising between people when we are ultimately wired for sociability and cooperation?

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Dec
12
to Dec 13

The Art of Courageous and Skillful Dialogue

  • Brighton, Rottingdean Village Hall (map)
  • Google Calendar ICS

Friday night talk: £10 / £15 at door
Saturday only workshop: £55 / £65 at door
For both events if paid in advance: £60

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Learn a revolutionary approach to speaking up, establishing rapport and resolving differences. Radically shift your experience of communication with this liberating, transformational and dynamic practice rooted in spiritual and emotional intelligence.

Break through limiting thought and speech patterns established through social conditioning, and replace them with a powerful way of communicating that is deeply satisfying, life honouring and creatively liberating. Come with an open your mind so you can experience the power of vibrant, authentic connection with yourself and others.

Hi I'm Rachelle ..

Poetry, presence, and humanity. Rachelle brings a passion for life-giving language that she shares in the service of inspiring others to choose words that incite not just personal but global change.
— Jacqueline Kellam, Teacher and Expressive Arts Therapist, Nanaimo, BC Canada

I've been helping people understand and resolve conflict for over 14 years .. and during that time I have continued to learn and reach down into the dirt of living, turning the soil over and over as it relates to conflict, relationships, social conditioning, justice, critical thought, compassionate action and ultimately what it means to be human, especially in such times as we now find ourselves living .. a time which consistently tests us with its myriad of distractions, overwhelming pressures and tragic news.

This is all "big picture" stuff and yet it's inextricably relevant to how we converse with each other, be it friends, lovers, children, family, colleagues, neighbours, enemies .. our entire canvas of relating falls prey to the indifferent paintbrush of the dominant culture.

We are awash in culture and so many of its toxins are absorbed into the gill of our hearts having a direct impact on our relationships. Tensions all too often make a sudden unwelcome appearance on the scene, words are spoken that can't be taken back .. or nothing is said out of paralysis from fear. We're often faced with catch 22 and left unchecked, these tensions lead to conflict that eventually erodes the relationship.

Psychologist Abraham Maslow said, "If the only tool you have is a hammer, then everything looks like a nail." So too with speech. Because we learn to speak before we learn to think, we have no ability to assess whether or not, during our early formative years, the communication and relating skills we acquire hold the standard we would now as adults ultimately assign ourselves.

As counter-intuitive as it sounds, we actually need to learn to speak  AFTER we learn to speak! Otherwise the perilous habits that have long laid claim to us will continue to snare us and wreak havoc in our lives. One of the greatest gifts we can give to ourselves, others and to this world is our well-honed, well considered, caring, responsible and articulate speech.

This workshop is for you if you can relate to any one of these:

  • You feel stuck in your relationships
  • Your kids won't listen to you
  • Your partner won't listen to you
  • You don't have the guts to speak up
  • You say things you regret
  • You feel resentful
  • You handle conflict poorly (freeze/fight/flight)
  • You feel anger/despair about the world
  • You're convinced something's missing but you're not sure what
  • You're disillusioned with life and/or relationships
  • You're disillusioned with healing, personal growth and self-help
  • You feel disempowered in your relationships or within the "system"
  • You want to become a better speaker and listener
  • You want to become a more effective leader
  • You want to change the world (volunteers always needed)


My promise to you:

  • I will shake up your existing paradigm around communication (a good thing because so much of what we say generates conflict)
  • I will challenge you to think waaaaaaay outside the box (key to making breakthroughs)
  • You will develop skills that you can implement straight away to get solid results
  • You will have a new lens from which to view yourself, your relationships and the world
  • Your ability to think critically will be strengthened as will your capacity to respond compassionately
  • You'll have a much clearer understanding of the mechanics of conflict and learn to lean into it with ingenuity and creativity
  • You'll be moved, you'll squirm, you'll tear up, you'll laugh and you'll learn something that is relevant and powerfully effective.

"Come, come, whoever you are,
wanderer, worshiper, lover of leaving,
it doesn't matter.
Ours is not a caravan of despair.
Come, even if you have broken your vow a hundred times.
Come, come again, come."

~Rumi

"Poetry, presence, and humanity. Rachelle brings a passion for life-giving language that she shares in the service of inspiring others to choose words that incite not just personal but global change."
~Jacqueline Kellam, Teacher and Expressive Arts Therapist, Nanaimo, BC Canada

Times:
Friday 12th December, 2014 5pm-7pm
Saturday 13th December, 2014 12noon-6pm

Fees:
Friday night talk: £10 / £15 at door
Saturday only workshop: £55 / £65 at door
For both events if paid in advance: £60

For more info please contact Neda Nenadic:
Phone: 0777 903 3129
Email: neda.nenadic@gmail.com

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Nov
3
9:00am 9:00am

The Art of Deep Listening

Course Description

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"What if, every time we stepped into a dialogue with someone, we approached it no differently than if we were stepping into a haltingly beautiful cathedral?" —Rachelle Lamb

Gosh it's so hard to do, and we'll often fail in the heat of the moment, and yet we can still hold it as a perfect aspiration and find ourselves from time to time blessed by moments of grace. This is a day for all you warriors who believe that in spite of those failures, it's worth learning some things that make those moments of grace more plentiful.

Tragic Fact: the primary cause of communication breakdown is that people don't feel heard. When that happens, tension builds and problems just get bigger. How we listen and what we say next determines the results and is 100% dependent on our ability to communicate effectively. Learn about one of the most misunderstood and underdeveloped skills essential to successful communications: empathy. When put into practice the result is increased trust, goodwill and collegial respect both at home and in the workplace.

Facilitator: Rachelle Lamb, speaker, author and president of Mindful Communication, offers highly stimulating and engaging training for leaders, managers, coaches, educators, HR specialists, and counsellors across Canada in public and private sectors.

Topics: 
• Conditioned thinking and language 
• Intention and presence in dialogue 
• Fostering openness 
• The nature of grievances and overcoming blocks 
• Relationship building and collaboration

Learning Outcomes: 
• Enhanced self-awareness 
• Translating “difficult” messages 
• Empathic listening 
• Conflict management and interpersonal communication 
• Leave with concrete tools to facilitate genuine understanding

REGISTRATION: Royal Roads University

 

 

 

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Nov
1
to Nov 2

Communication Breakthrough

  • Oliver, Medici's Building (map)
  • Google Calendar ICS

This workshop is for all who speak. It is intended for anyone willing to do the work to significantly enhance and transform personal and professional relationships for the better. Learn to be attentive to your use of language and how it can create connection or cause distance.

Explore a revolutionary approach to speaking up, establishing rapport and resolving differences. Radically shift your experience of communication with this liberating, transformational and dynamic practice rooted in spiritual and emotional intelligence. Break through limiting thought and speech patterns established through social conditioning, and replace them with a powerful way of communicating that is deeply satisfying, life honouring and creatively liberating. Come with an open your mind so you can experience the power of vibrant, authentic connection with yourself and others.

Topics: 
• Alienating thinking and language
• Speaking honestly and courageously
• Addressing differences and resolving conflict
• Getting clear on intention
• Observing without evaluating
• Empathy and understanding 
• Cultivating interpersonal fluency 
• Relationship building & collaboration

Tuition: $275 (Early Bird discount $235 available until Oct 3rd)
Organized by Self Sense Studio
Registration:  Marianne Macdonald email or 250-498-2054

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Oct
18
to Oct 19

Speak To Me Like You Love Me - Hollyhock Vancouver

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  • Leadership
  • Personal Development
  • Relationship
  • Vancouver

 

How do communication exchanges between well intended people become habitually problematic? How does goodwill become overshadowed by resentment and mistrust? For anyone who fears conflict, come and learn how to turn this so often dreaded beast into an ally that strengthens relationships of all kinds.

Whether we wish it to be or not, what we say and how we say it determines whether our relationships become battlegrounds or fruit bearing gardens. For instance, a simple “Will you take out the garbage?” or “You’re not much of a team player” has the potential to stimulate a great inventory of negativity. And yet human beings are wired for sociability and cooperation. How then do we rewrite the human narrative and find our way to more responsible and caring ways of relating? Join Rachelle as she shares how NVC helps us get off the treadmill of playing the game Who's Right and effectively moves us into a zone where mutually satisfying exchanges unfold with genuine sensitivity and mutual regard that ultimately lead to deeper and richer connections between people.

Registration: Hollyhock

 

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Oct
15
to Oct 16

Nonviolent Communication: Language of Goodwill and Responsibility

  • Victoria BC, Royal Roads University (map)
  • Google Calendar ICS

Course Description

Called a masterwork, compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a powerful process for relationship building, team-building and establishing a solid foundation based on trust and transparency. Emphasizing relational intelligence over intellectual analysis and focusing on universal human needs, NVC encourages open and honest dialogue that facilitates individuals to have their input considered and valued without loss of self-esteem, build-up of resentment, coercion, or fear of retribution.

Please note that course material can be experienced as challenging given the level of focused attention dedicated to the more widely held personal and cultural beliefs, premises and assumptions that are at the basis of language and communication, in particular those that largely go unexamined and consequently create a great many problems for us. Participant openness and willingness are crucial in this case and will lead to profound learning and breakthroughs.

Topics: 
• Alienating thinking and language 
• Conflict resolution 
• Intention in dialogue 
• Power of observation 
• Anger and other strong emotions 
• Empathy and understanding 
• Cultivating interpersonal fluency 
• Relationship building & collaboration

Learning Outcomes: 
• Increasing self-awareness 
• Providing honest feedback 
• Developing non-judgmental observations 
• Identifying universal needs 
• Making clear and effective requests 
• Transforming anger 
• Keys to empathic listening 
• The NVC 4 step dialogue process

Registration: Royal Roads University or call 250.391.2513

 

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Oct
4
to Oct 5

Communication Breakthrough

  • Edmonton, Healing Connections (map)
  • Google Calendar ICS

Tuition: $275
Sign up as a twosome! Bring a partner, friend or family member with you and save!
Twosome price: $500
Seats are non-refundable but transferable.
Seating is limited. Early sign-up recommended.

Make your selection:

Learn a revolutionary approach to speaking up, establishing rapport and resolving differences. Radically shift your experience of communication with this liberating, transformational and dynamic practice rooted in spiritual and emotional intelligence.

Break through limiting thought and speech patterns established through social conditioning, and replace them with a powerful way of communicating that is deeply satisfying, life honouring and creatively liberating. Come with an open your mind so you can experience the power of vibrant, authentic connection with yourself and others.

Hi I'm Rachelle ..

I've been teaching Nonviolent Communication for over 14 years .. and during that time I have continued to learn and reach down into the dirt of living, turning the soil over and over as it relates to conflict, relationships, social conditioning, justice, critical thought, compassionate action and ultimately what it means to be human, especially in such times as we now find ourselves living .. a time which consistently tests us with its myriad of distractions, overwhelming pressures and tragic news.

This is all "big picture" stuff and yet it's inextricably relevant to how we converse with each other, be it friends, lovers, children, family, colleagues, neighbours, enemies .. our entire canvas of relating falls prey to the indifferent paintbrush of the dominant culture.

During spring in Denmark, flocks of more than a million European starlings gather into a single group to form incredibly large and intricate shapes in the sky. These amazing scenes are only possible because of the flock’s amazing communication and coordination.  

During spring in Denmark, flocks of more than a million European starlings gather into a single group to form incredibly large and intricate shapes in the sky. These amazing scenes are only possible because of the flock’s amazing communication and coordination.
 

We are awash in culture and so many of its toxins are absorbed into the gill of our hearts having a direct impact on our relationships. Tensions all too often make a sudden unwelcome appearance on the scene, words are spoken that can't be taken back .. or nothing is said out of paralysis from fear. We're often faced with catch 22 and left unchecked, these tensions lead to conflict that eventually erodes the relationship.

Psychologist Abraham Maslow said, "If the only tool you have is a hammer, then everything looks like a nail." So too with speech. Because we learn to speak before we learn to think, we have no ability to assess whether or not, during our early formative years, the communication and relating skills we acquire hold the standard we would now as adults ultimately assign ourselves.

As counter-intuitive as it sounds, we actually need to learn to speak  AFTER we learn to speak! Otherwise the perilous habits that have long laid claim to us will continue to snare us and wreak havoc in our lives. One of the greatest gifts we can give to ourselves, others and to this world is our well-honed, well considered, caring, responsible and articulate speech.

This workshop is for you if you can relate to any one of these:

  • You feel stuck in your life
  • You feel stuck in your primary relationship
  • Your kids won't listen to you
  • Your partner won't listen to you
  • You don't have the guts to speak up
  • You say things you regret
  • You feel resentful
  • You handle conflict poorly (freeze/fight/flight)
  • You feel anger/despair about the world
  • You're convinced something's missing but you're not sure what
  • You're disillusioned with life and/or relationships
  • You're disillusioned with healing, personal growth and self-help
  • You feel disempowered in your relationships or within the "system"
  • You're ready to develop mastery in your communication
  • You want to become a more effective leader
  • You want to change the world (yep, still a noble pursuit)

This workshop is not for you if:

  • You navigate conflict with exemplary grace and mastery and can remain open and engaged in the midst of verbal "attack"
  • Your life can be described as almost perfect and when you look around you ..
  • You're fully convinced that the world will course correct without any intervention
Come, come, whoever you are,
wanderer, worshiper, lover of leaving,
it doesn’t matter.
Ours is not a caravan of despair.
Come, even if you have broken your vow a hundred times.
Come, come again, come.
— Rumi

My promise to you:

  • I will shake up your existing paradigm around communication (a good thing because the dominant paradigm generates problems for us)
  • I will challenge you to think waaaaaaay outside the box (key to making breakthroughs)
  • You will acquire skills that you can implement straight away with positive outcome
  • You will have a new lens from which to view yourself, your relationships and the world
  • Your ability to think critically will be strengthened as will your capacity to respond compassionately
  • You'll have a much clearer understanding of the mechanics of conflict and learn to lean into it with ingenuity and creativity
  • You'll be moved, a few times (hopefully)
  • You'll laugh, a few times (hopefully)

Topics: 

  • Alienating thinking and language (our cultural inheritance)
  • You don't need to be "healed" .. identifying the "trauma" of our times
  • Speaking with compelling honesty and moxy
  • Understanding the mechanics of defensiveness
  • When "safety" and "non-judgement" become a trap
  • Addressing interpersonal tension skillfully and constructively
  • Balancing clear intention/direction with openness and flexibility
  • Empathy that liberates versus empathy that stifles
  • Mourning and Gratitude as essential anchors

This workshop is for all who speak. It is intended for anyone willing to do the work to significantly enhance and transform personal and professional relationships for the better. This includes artists, counsellors, couples, creatives, educators, leaders, managers, parents, mediators and those committed to social change. All who yearn for how this world could be.

Rachelle Lamb is a speaker, writer, spiritual activist and 'relationship whisperer'. She has shown thousands how to courageously and skillfully navigate interpersonal conflict and challenges, leading very often to profound breakthrough.

"Engaging, dynamic, transformational, liberating … a must attend!"

"A workshop that truly speaks to the heart!! A wonderful opportunity for anyone who wants to explore an alternate way of being! An opportunity that speaks to our essence."

Further info: Lori Truax 780-240-1832

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Sep
13
to Sep 14

Courageous Dialogues

  • Ottawa, OICC Building (2ND FLOOR) (map)
  • Google Calendar ICS
Easy registration
courage (n.) c.1300, from Old French corage (12c., Modern French courage) "heart, innermost feelings; temper,"

courage (n.) c.1300, from Old French corage (12c., Modern French courage) "heart, innermost feelings; temper,"

Tuition: $275 | Twosome price: $500
Seats are non-refundable once purchased.

To speak eloquently, directly and courageously when the stakes are high does not come naturally. It is a learned skill. And if you haven't learned it, which is hard to do in a culture that doesn't teach it, when you need it most is when you'll recognize just how impoverished our culture is in this regard. And in a culture that prides itself on "individualism" above all else, you can be sure that the stakes relationally speaking will be even higher and the cost of alienation deeper than what your pockets or heart can bear.

Explore a revolutionary approach to speaking up, establishing rapport and resolving differences. Radically shift your experience of communication with this liberating, transformational and dynamic practice rooted in spiritual and emotional intelligence. Break through limiting thought and speech patterns established through social conditioning, and replace them with a powerful way of communicating that is deeply satisfying, life honouring and creatively liberating. Come with an open your mind so you can experience the power of vibrant, authentic connection with those you love, those you don't love, and the living world that sustains you.

Love is always a matter of learning how to live in an unknown land. It is not just translation or about being secure in what one knows, but about learning how to give a true gift to what one loves by learning what it loves. Love is always about learning the Nature of things.
— Martín Prechtel
You know, people come to therapy really for blessing. Not so much to fix what’s broken, but to get what’s broken blessed.
— James Hillman

Topics: 
• Alienating thinking and language (our cultural inheritance)
• You don't need to be "healed" .. identifying the "trauma" of our times
• Speaking with compelling honesty and moxy
• Understanding the mechanics of defensiveness
• When "safety" and "non-judgement" become a trap
• Addressing interpersonal tension skillfully and constructively
• Balancing clear intention/direction with openness and flexibility
• Empathy that liberates versus empathy that stifles
• Mourning and Gratitude as essential anchors

This workshop is for all who speak. It is intended for anyone willing to do the work to significantly enhance and transform personal and professional relationships for the better and have some yearning for how this precious world could be. This includes artists, counsellors, couples, creatives, educators, leaders, managers, parents, mediators and those committed to social change.

Join Rachelle Lamb, who has for over two decades, been exploring language, relating and conflict through the lens of Cultural Anthropology, Spirituality, Nonviolent Communication, Mythology, Poetry, Storytelling, Deep Ecology and Social Activism. She is a speaker, writer, spiritual activist, certified NVC Trainer and ‘relationship whisperer’ and has shown thousands how  to courageously and skillfully navigate interpersonal conflict and challenges, leading to profound breakthroughs.

"Engaging, dynamic, transformational, liberating … a must attend!"

"A workshop that truly speaks to the heart!! A wonderful opportunity for anyone who wants to explore an alternate way of being! An opportunity that speaks to our essence."

Further info: 250-858-2906
Seating is limited for this venue. Early sign-up recommended.
Workshop is on the 2nd floor meeting room (no wheelchair access) of the OICC Building at 29 Bayswater with limited free parking at the building itself.
Sign up as a twosome! Bring a partner, friend or family member with you and save!

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Apr
26
9:30am 9:30am

Speak To Me Like You Love Me

How do communication exchanges between well intended people become habitually problematic? How does goodwill become overshadowed by resentment and mistrust? For anyone who fears conflict, come and learn how to turn this so often dreaded beast into an ally that strengthens relationships of all kinds.

Happy-couple small.jpg

Whether we wish it to be or not, what we say and how we say it determines whether our relationships become battlegrounds or fruit bearing gardens. For instance, a simple “Will you take out the garbage?” or “You’re not much of a team player” has the potential to stimulate a great inventory of negativity. And yet human beings are wired for sociability and cooperation. How then do we rewrite the human narrative and find our way to more responsible and caring ways of relating? Join Rachelle as she shares how NVC helps us get off the treadmill of playing the game Who's Right and effectively moves us into a zone where mutually satisfying exchanges unfold with genuine sensitivity and mutual regard that ultimately lead to deeper and richer connections between people.

This workshop is open to individuals and couples alike. Course content will be applicable to both personal and professional relating situations.

Tuition: $125CDN 
Couples Special: $220 

Purchase is non-refundable. Seats may be transferred to another person however.

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Apr
5
9:30am 9:30am

Speak To Me Like You Love Me

How do communication exchanges between well intended people become habitually problematic? How does goodwill become overshadowed by resentment and mistrust? For anyone who fears conflict, come and learn how to turn this so often dreaded beast into an ally that strengthens relationships of all kinds.

Happy-couple small.jpg

Whether we wish it to be or not, what we say and how we say it determines whether our relationships become battlegrounds or fruit bearing gardens. For instance, a simple “Will you take out the garbage?” or “You’re not much of a team player” has the potential to stimulate a great inventory of negativity. And yet human beings are wired for sociability and cooperation. How then do we rewrite the human narrative and find our way to more responsible and caring ways of relating? Join Rachelle as she shares how NVC helps us get off the treadmill of playing the game Who's Right and effectively moves us into a zone where mutually satisfying exchanges unfold with genuine sensitivity and mutual regard that ultimately lead to deeper and richer connections between people.

This workshop is open to individuals and couples alike.

Tuition: $125 
Couples Special: $220 

Easy registration
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Mar
27
to Mar 29

Nonviolent Communication 3 Day Intensive

  • Calgary AB, ADR Institute of Alberta (map)
  • Google Calendar ICS
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ADR Institute of Alberta

Described as a masterwork, Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a highly effective interpersonal communication process used worldwide for relationship building, team-building and resolving conflict. Skillful use of the process facilitates the accurate flow of information and successfully establishes a solid foundation for productive rapport based on trust, transparency, and mutuality. Emphasizing relational intelligence over intellectual analysis and focusing on universal human needs, NVC encourages open and honest dialog that supports individuals in having their input fully considered and valued without loss of self-esteem or fear of coercion or retribution, while consistently underscoring respect, collegiality and creative solutions.

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